No more T.

Over the weekend I got a strange feeling that something wasn't right. Monday night I emailed T to see how he was doing in NY dealing with hurricane Sandy. The response I got from him was very vague and left me feeling like my intuition was right and something was going on. Tuesday morning I got an email from my coordinator asking if I would have time to chat later in the afternoon. At this point I knew something was up... I hadn't heard back about my appointment at the fertility clinic and I thought that was weird.

My coordinator eventually called yesterday and let me know that T was no longer going to be working with her agency. Apparently he has a new girlfriend and would like her to carry his baby instead! Hopefully it works out for him, I wish him the best. However, that means I am back to square one! Here we go again.....

We've got a match!

Tuesday night my dad came over to watch the kids so that Sam and I could go have dinner with T. I was a little bit nervous just because I am shy and based on our previous phone conversations, it was pretty clear he is the same way. We are both excited about the process, but two shy strangers meeting for dinner can be a little awkward, so I was a bit on the nervous side. Luckily Sam doesn't have any of those shy bones, so he was a huge help. The guys started discussing baseball while I studied the menu and by the time I knew what I wanted to eat, conversation was flowing between all three of us.

Dinner was fabulous, the company was awesome and we all chatted for almost 2 hours. We talked about our childhood, where we grew up, previous relationships, our family dynamic, future plans, and a ton of other non-surrogacy related topics. Of course there was plenty of surrogacy talk as well, but it was nice to chat about a variety of things... it didn't feel like a business meeting. I went into the meeting with a few reservations. I can easily say that I have zero concerns at this point and I am excited to move forward in the process of helping T have his baby(babies?).

The next step is to schedule my medical and psychological screening. The medical screening takes place in San Diego so I will be headed there at some point in the next couple weeks. I'm currently waiting on a call from my surrogacy coordinator to let me know when my appointment will be, but it will be soon and I'm looking forward to it!

Found a match?

I recently had a phone conference with a man (we will call him T) who wants nothing more than to become a father. We chatted for a long time and discussed a variety things from family history, current lifestyle, why I want to do this, why he wants to be a dad, and many, many other things. We seemed to really click well! The next step is a face to face interview! T has booked a flight and will be coming all the way from New York to meet with us on October 16th for dinner. We will see how it goes, and of course I'll keep you posted! :)

I've decided to become a surrogate.

I've been contemplating it for the last three years. Deep down I've known it was something I wanted to do, I just didn't know how feasible it actually was. I've spent the last six months researching the process, speaking with agencies, stalking the surrogacy message boards and getting increasingly excited! The more I researched, the easier my decision has become - this is something I am going to do.

After deciding on which agency to work with, I got started right away by filling out my surrogate profile. This is what the Intended Parents (IPs) use to decide if they'd like to meet with a potential surrogate. I answered all kinds of questions about why I want to be a surrogate, my life, my family and my background. It includes photos of myself, my husband, my children and my home. It discusses my views on a variety of pregnancy related topics - it's a very thorough application used to determine if I would be a good fit to carry someone's baby.

The next step is to sit and wait patiently for the phone call from my agency saying that someone is interested and wants to speak with me about potentially working together! This could take days or even months, finding the right match could get tricky. Not only do you have to find someone you agree with on all aspects of the pregnancy, but Arizona is not a surrogate- friendly state. This makes it even harder to find a match.

I'm looking forward to documenting and sharing my journey every step of the way, but please bear with me as I'm not much of a fancy writer!  :)