Two weeks ago I received another profile with a set of Intended Parents. They seemed lovely, but unfortunately not for me. They were a lot older than what I was hoping for and they really wanted their surrogate to agree to eating only organic foods and exercising daily. While I can appreciate the desire for an extra healthy pregnancy, I cannot 100% commit to avoiding Taco Bell if I have a late night pregnancy craving and I am certainly not one to work out on a daily (or even weekly) basis. lol!
I will say it was an incredibly difficult decision to make. While the couple has no idea that I even viewed their profile, I can't help but feel like such a jerk for rejecting them. Like, "I want to help someone build their family and give the gift of life, but ehhhh not you guys". Or at least that's how my heart feels. But at the end of the day, I want this journey to be everything I hoped it could be and part of that includes having a great relationship with the IP's, so if I don't feel like we could potentially connect well, unfortunately I have to keep looking.
Yesterday I received another profile for an international couple. We will call them L and J. They live in China and have been together for 10 years. After many fertility struggles and 2 miscarriages, they have sought out a surrogate. They seem lovely and like such a precious couple and we appear to have very similar ideas of how we expect this journey to go. My only concern at this point is if there will be a potential language barrier issue. My case manager said they speak "basic English" but I'm not sure if that means that can carry a conversation, they just don't use many adjectives... or if it's more of a, "Hello, where is the bathroom?" basic English situation. I requested that my agency forward my profile to them and if they approve, we will do a virtual match meeting and see how it goes. So, fingers crossed - again! I should hear back next week!
